An overdose of narcissism – you are what people term as egocentric – having an inflated sense of self esteem that will piss others off. It’s okay to feel narcissistic to a certain extent because someone who shows absolute lack of narcissism suffers from a lack of self-esteem, which isn’t good either.
It’s so very hard to hear someone else out (Unless you are the quiet listener, refusing to talk about yourself.). For instance, when my friend went through a bad break up and was having a terrible time coping with it, he turned to me for support. And what did I do? Listened to him for the first five minutes, and then narrated my break-up story for the next half an hour, throwing in useful tips that I considered, might help him.
It’s not just me. I have been in my friend’s position as well. This one time, I screwed up my performance in a college event by getting cold feet in the last minute. I was very upset that day and decided to talk it out with my friend. Instead, I ended up listening to her chatter about her first stage experience and her stage fright. It was supposed to make me feel better but it didn’t. I hadn’t called her up to hear her banter. This was about me.
It’s so very hard to be the patient listener-cum-adviser. You would always want to relate everything to yourself.
For many, it just takes a second to launch on a self ramble.
You:“How have you been?”
Me:“Oh nothing great in particular. Just working that’s all.”
You :”Oh okay. I went rafting the other day. Then I visited Lavasa. It was raining, and was so beautiful and…”
You may call it being insensitive, but, it’s omnipresent – this mild hint of narcissism. Everyone likes to comes first at some point or the other.
Else you wouldn’t be normal.
I had to add the last line. 😛